Have you ever been in a situation where you ask yourself: Why am I such failure? It could be because of anything. The point is that you feel discouraged and lose belief in yourself. But what if I told you that failure is a good thing? That from failure you can learn something? Would you believe me?
Difference Between Failure And Success
When does failure happen? Failure is when you cannot visualize your long-term goals and when you doubt your ability to reach them. Success is when you visualize reaching your long-term goals and believe 100% in your ability to reach them.
And in order to reach a long-term goal, you first have to have your short-term goals. You have to create a daily routine of planning your day for success. You will not make something happen just because you’re thinking about it. You have to devote your time, your energy and yourself to make it happen.
Very few people, if any actually, managed to get to their goal from a first try. Lot’s of us (yes, me also) have failed. Not once, several times. Passing by that pizza cut store, or ice cream window. You stop, look at a beautiful, delicious site, but you are strong and decide to move on.
Then, your stomach starts to complain, and your brain starts making excuses and looking for a reason to go back for just one time. And you go back. You eat a slice of pizza or one big ice cream. And you feel guilty. Should you feel guilty?
Let me put it this way: yes, you should, but you also shouldn’t let that feeling knock you down! Remember how you are feeling at that moment, and next time you get in temptation, think about it. Remember it! As Rocky has said: “It ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done!”
Follow The Pattern
If you want to succeed in something, you have to follow a specific pattern. When you take a look at someone who is already successful, how did he become that? Well at first he had to be passionate about it. You will not achieve much if you aren’t excited about what you want to do.
The next thing he had to have is a hard work ethic and work with specific focus and goals. If he would just try and do something, without a proper plan, he wouldn’t be able to achieve his goals.
He has to have self-belief, believe that he can do what he wants to do. If he wouldn’t think he can make it, do you think someone else would tap him on his back and courage him to keep on?
And if he fails then learn from failure. Even if he does fail, he always strives to get better. If he would give up, it would mean he didn’t want it enough, that it wasn’t important to him that much.
And what is also essential: always to learn from others. Learning from other’s mistakes is the best way that you can be successful in something. Think about it: Why would you learn from your mistakes and slow down your progress when you can analyze other successful people learn from, from them their mistakes, and improve your way towards success.
At this point, somebody can say: But I am afraid of failure. I am afraid I will not succeed. Well, let me quote a famous person. Albert Einstein once said: Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.
What he meant to say is that failure is a part of the learning process. You shouldn’t be afraid of failure. Because failure is just a road sign that says: Hey, this is not the way you supposed to go; go in the other direction.
Many successful people were once a failure into something. Let me give you a few examples.
- Albert Einstein – he wasn’t able to speak until he was almost four years old and his teachers said he would never be worth too much.
- Michael Jordan – after being cut from his high school basketball team, he went home, locked himself in his room, and cried.
- Walt Disney – he was fired from a newspaper for “lacking imagination” and having “no original ideas.”
- Steve Jobs – at the age of 30 he was devastated after being removed from the company he started.
- Oprah Winfrey – she was demoted from a news anchor because she wasn’t “fit for television.”
- The Beatles – they were rejected by Decca Recording studios, who said: We don’t like their sound – they have no future in show business.
- Bill Gates – he dropped from Harvard and co-owned a business that was a failure (Traf-O-Data).
What would happen if all those people stop when they fail? They wouldn’t be where they are now.
Failure: The Key To Success
Failure is a motivation tool to move on. The only way you can succeed is to accept your failure, learn from it and grow in that direction. Fail is a First Attempt In Learning. People who put limitations on success only limit their own ability to succeed.
So now that you know that failure is not such a bad thing let’s work on how you can achieve your goals. I advise you to get a piece of paper and a pen and write this down for you.
- How long have you been putting it off – Point of this question is to see how long you have been holding back and where could you have been if you reacted when you should.
- What excuses have you been using – Is it the work, family commitments, believe you can’t do it?
- Make a dedicated decision to change – If you really want results, it’s time to make a change. You can’t be having any more excuses.
- Get organized and execute the plan – Plan, plan, and plan. Without a plan, you will not get anywhere.
- Start as soon as you’ve decided to change – Start right now after reading this even if it’s a small baby step towards your result.
Believe in the process and track your results. Believe that you can do it because if you don’t believe it, then no one else will.
My advice is never to do tomorrow what you can do today. Procrastination is your time thief.
So work on your true passions whether it is in fitness in work or in life. Obviously, you have to work, maybe even a job that you are not passionate about. Make sure you are not doing 8 hours per day for someone else dream, and then you go home and now work on your dream. An hour, half an hour, doesn’t matter. But work till you reach it.
Accept that failure is a part of the learning and success process. Realize it will take some time, probably a long time to reach your goals. That’s ok! Always give 100% your focus and effort. And remember: You are NOT a failure! It is a process that you have to go through to reach your goal.
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I am looking forward to seeing your comments. Have a great day and till next time, remember, your body deserves best, and so do you!
8 thoughts on “Why am I Such Failure – Is It Really True?”
Hi, Dalibor very interesting site. What I retain from it is Plan, Plan, Plan. Learn from your failures, learn from others and that you have to be passionate, you have to have a very hard work ethic and you have to focus on your goals. And you will meet success. Very enjoyable reading.
Hello i shared your post on my facebook page.You are right that you must not let the excuse of potential failure stop you from achieving your goal especially if you are making some else rich off of your back .Be it at work or moving into your own home. The sky is the limit for all of our goal.But the important is you definitely must have a plan to not fail reaching success.
Thank you for your comment, and thank you for sharing on your social network.
I’m glad you agree with me. All you need is strong will and will to push forward!
Hello Dalibor. Well I would like to show this article to many people that I know. There are people that give up before they even tried anything because they are afraid of failing. The biggest mistake people do when starting with something is a desire to be successful immediately, and when they don’t get results they wanted instantly, they give up!
I’m not the person who have plans and stick to them, I only have a motivation to make changes in my life. That motivation creates a vision on what I would like to do and what I need to do to make that changes.
I remember when I got my first job, i was a taxi driver. First couple of weeks everything I could think of is giving up, because I had to learn too many things, and I did not believed that I’m capable of it. Then I met the guy who was working in the same company, he was there for couple of years. Thing is, he did not even know all the letters, he was struggling to sign his name on the paper… but he was a good worker, he had highest salary in that company. That made me think of myself, why I thought that I cannot do that, I’m more than capable of doing it. After that, I realized that I was thinking about everything in a wrong way! We all can achieve what we want, the key is in your motivation, you need to push yourself and believe that you can do it, because you can!
Thank you Dalibor for sharing this, it is a post that everybody should read when they encounter any kind of a problems in their lives, especially big ones.
Keep up with good work man!
Thank you so much for your honest reply. I really like your attitude. And I agree with you: with the right mindset, anything is possible. And you are pure proof of that!
I wish you all the best in your life and keep that positive and strong attitude!
We really enjoyed reading your post. Very motivating, and makes you think about taking a look at yourself. We know we are guilty of procrastinating, negative self-beliefs, self-doubt, etc. Really like the Fail acronym (First Attempt at Learning), and trying to learn from others that have already made the mistakes for us, so hopefully we don’t have to.
Thanks for the inspiration post!
Rodney and Shelley
Thanks for your comment. I am glad you both see it inspiring. Negative thoughts and doubt someone could have can eat you from inside. That is why it is important to look at things differently and raise your head, not if you fall, but when!
Best wishes to you two,
HI! I like your article! Fail is such a painful thing for anyone, but we need to go on, go forward, failure is the mother of success, I heard many successful entrepreneurs say they’re afraid they won’t fail because when you never fail, you’ll never let yourself progress.
Like your example of these successful people say, fail actually is a very normal thing, and sometimes, it even a great thing for you!
Thank you for this high-quality article! Like your opinion!